Handling a break-up!

When you are in love with your man and he has just told you he needs to take a break, your first thought is to run after him and tell him how much you love him and need him. If you go to your friends for advice, they will probably tell you to let him go. That is easy to say because they are not the one to be losing the love of their life. You do not want to let him go, you want to get him back.

The truth is, the advice given by your friends is kinda right. To get your ex boyfriend back don’t chase him or hound him or harass him – as hard as it may seem you need to back off and give him space.  Let him think you are OK and coping!

You do not have to give him up, but if you run after him crying and begging, you will lose him for good. This sort of behaviour is not very attractive in a man’s eyes and could end up pushing him away further. He will see you as being needy and desperate and no man wants a woman that cannot control her emotions.

When you let your emotions take over you can end up doing things you regret. You will do things that you would not normally think of doing if you were thinking with a clear head. Giving in to your instincts will make you appear desperate, when you start calling him at all hours and telling him you cannot live without him – you risk blowing it completely. Doing this can ruin any chance that you have of getting him back.

What you need to be doing to get your ex back is to stay away from him. Do not have any contact with him at all for several weeks. This will keep you from telling him you love him and cannot live without him, and it will give him a chance to settle down and see how important you are to him. The longer you can make him think you have taken the breakup in your stride – that life is carrying on without him, the better chance you will have of gettinig him back.

If you can do this then you are showing him how strong and mature you are, and he will begin to have second thoughts about breaking up with you.

The reason this tactic works so well is that when he broke up with you, he felt you were still madly in love with him and that you would be begging him to love you again. When you do not tell him you love him or even contact him, it will cause him to think you do not want him any more and he will fear that he has lost you completely and hopefully he will start to call you and realise he has made a mistake.

On the other hand you also have to be prepared for the fact that he really, truly may not want to get back with you and this is something you may have to deal with!