Is lying OK in a relationship?
Sometimes a little white lie can save a lot of hassle so for me lying is acceptable. Of course it depends on the lie – if someone chats you up whilst you are out and you know that your partner is going to go off on one and a fight could possibly ensue then it is better to not mention it at all (which is technically not a lie) or if he does ask then just say ‘no’.
I never really understood why girls would actually go out their way to tell boyfriends, who they knew were jealous and would ‘go-off’ on one that someone had made a pass at them. I can only assume this is to fill their own neediness, and therefore this is not a healthy relationship.
Every know and again a white lie is needed. I mean, if your best friend is on the large side and asks if she looks big in what she is wearing you are not going to say to her, “Well actually you always look big” are you? You say, “No it looks fine” and you lie. Although you would tell her if something didn’t suit her.
Sometimes a lie is needed to spare someones feelings or to stop a situation occuring that might not be good. Compulsive lying? Well that’s a different matter!
January 11th, 2012 at 8:53 pm
Oh my God..what a load of rubbish! Anna….I would not like to be your friend.
If a large friend of mine asked if she looked ok and I knew that she looked awful, then I would tactfully tell her that a more flattering outfit would look better..I would never say she looked fine if she didn’t. How awful would that be??
White lies are not there to protect the other person. They are used to cover up the weakness of the lier. My friends know they can trust me because I tell the truth. Sparing someones feelings? When the truth is told in a loving way then it is always good.
If my boyfriend asked me if I was chatted up when out on a girls night, then I would again tell the truth. Why lie? I would simply say “of course I did..but I told the bloke that I was in a relationship with the man of my dreams.” No lies and my boyfriend know’s he can trust the fact that I am thinking about him when I am out.. He will also understand that I am still attractive to the opposite sex which actually makes me more attractive to him. It also gives women an ego boost when we’re chatted up and keeps us feeling attractive and makes for a more confident and sexy girlfriend. Not sneaky little insecure liars!
Saving a lot of hassle by lying is the worst ever advice! I hope people use their own integrity and do not bother taking your advice toxic Anna.