He uses your name often when he speaks to you: If he likes you, your name is literally music to his ears and he will want to say it often. It makes him feel good to say your name.

He tends to brush up against or touch you: Those little innocent brushes in the hallway or light touches on the shoulder at your desk are not by accident. They are ways of being closer to you and could mean he is wishing he could be more intimate with you.

He ignores you at odd times: If he is unsure about how you feel about him, he may actually try ignoring you at certain times. He may be nervous about what to say, to say to you or how to talk to you.

You are good friends but he avoids talking about his love life: If you two are friends but he wants more, he may conspicuously avoid telling you about whom he is dating or he may leave key details out. This is a classic sign that he is trying to protect your feelings and also that he is trying not spoil his chances of dating you in the future.

He tends to ignore other women when you are around: For example, if there are three attractive women in the room and he is giving you by far the most attention, that is a huge sign that he likes you.

He looks for your reaction first when he tells a joke: If you are in a group situation and he tells what he thinks is a funny joke, he will give his first eye contact after the punch line to the person whose reaction is the most important.

His close friends ask you about whom you are dating: Do you find that his friends have asked you about your love life? They may be trying to find out more information and then feeding it back to him so that he can stay informed.

So, if you can tick a few of these boxes when it comes to his behaviour towards you then why not take the bull by the horns and ask him out – what have you got to lose?

An older couple were lying in bed after an evening celebrating there 50th Wedding Anniversary. The husband was falling asleep, but the wife was in a romantic mood and wanted to talk. She said, “You used to hold my hand when we were courting.” Wearily he reached across, held her hand for a second and tried to go back to sleep. A few moments later she said: “Then you used to kiss me.” Mildly irritated, he reached across, gave her a peck on the cheek and settled down to sleep. Thirty seconds later she said: “Then you used to bite me on my neck.” Angrily, he threw back the bed clothes and got out of bed. “Where are you going?” she asked. He answered, “To get my teeth!”

A man comes home from work and finds his wife admiring her breasts in the mirror. He asks, “What are you doing?” She replies, “I went to the doctor today, and he told me I have the breasts of a 25 year old.” The husband retorts, “Well, what did he say about your 50 year old ass?” She replied, “Frankly dear, your name never came up.”

The first thing you could try is marriage counseling – sometimes it can help to have someone neutral (a mediator) to talk to as they can be impartial and keep you focused when it comes to talking as it can become all too easy to fall into the trap of apportioning blame on each other and getting into a tit-for-tat argument.

One thing that some people find hard to deal with is that the perfect marriage is a myth.  Sometimes the most passionate marriages can seem like hell to the outsider as the couple argue constantly but ultimately they are happy and their sex life will be just as passionate.  Try to avoid comparing your marriage to friends and family as no marriages are the same.

Many people claim the first year or two or marriage can be the hardest as whenever two people are brought together and suddenly living together on a daily basis, there is bound to be problems. This is completely normal. Even close friends are different in their likes and dislikes and even though you love your friend and have known them for 25 years it doesn’t mean you could live together in total harmony. For any marriage to succeed you must learn to deal with the rough patches and overcome their problems. If you are seeking perfection then you will never be happy. People make mistakes, work with your partner and overcome the problems you face, and you’ll realize it is possible to save my marriage – perhaps you will realise that the thing you thought was huge is not that bad after all and not worth throwing your marriage away for!

Good communication is vital in any relationship.  If you can’t talk to each other then your marriage will no doubt run into problems. It is important to be honest with your partner – most problems can be overcome if communication is strong in your marriage.

It is also important that you both learn to accept compromise. Part of a healthy marriage is compromise.  There will be things your partner thinks is acceptable in a relationship that you might not totally agree with – but if it is not going to be harmful to you, your partner or your relationship then why not compromise and let him go to the football and the pub with his friends.  There is no doubt things about you that your partner does not agree with or like but he lets it go because he loves you.

Marriage is also about commitment. If you have a car and it breaks down, you don’t abandon the car on the side of the road – you take it home and have it repaired either by yourselves or by a professional. The only time you do get rid of the car is when there is no hope. Saving your marriage requires the same level of commitment.

Of course there are times when things are so bad that nothing can change it. Some issues cannot be solved – for example, some couples can not get over an affair and no amount of counseling  will help. Sometimes problems are too great and will lead to divorce. If you feel there is even the slimmest chance you can save your marriage then it is surely worth trying?

The truth is, the advice given by your friends is kinda right. To get your ex boyfriend back don’t chase him or hound him or harass him – as hard as it may seem you need to back off and give him space.  Let him think you are OK and coping!

You do not have to give him up, but if you run after him crying and begging, you will lose him for good. This sort of behaviour is not very attractive in a man’s eyes and could end up pushing him away further. He will see you as being needy and desperate and no man wants a woman that cannot control her emotions.

When you let your emotions take over you can end up doing things you regret. You will do things that you would not normally think of doing if you were thinking with a clear head. Giving in to your instincts will make you appear desperate, when you start calling him at all hours and telling him you cannot live without him – you risk blowing it completely. Doing this can ruin any chance that you have of getting him back.

What you need to be doing to get your ex back is to stay away from him. Do not have any contact with him at all for several weeks. This will keep you from telling him you love him and cannot live without him, and it will give him a chance to settle down and see how important you are to him. The longer you can make him think you have taken the breakup in your stride – that life is carrying on without him, the better chance you will have of gettinig him back.

If you can do this then you are showing him how strong and mature you are, and he will begin to have second thoughts about breaking up with you.

The reason this tactic works so well is that when he broke up with you, he felt you were still madly in love with him and that you would be begging him to love you again. When you do not tell him you love him or even contact him, it will cause him to think you do not want him any more and he will fear that he has lost you completely and hopefully he will start to call you and realise he has made a mistake.

On the other hand you also have to be prepared for the fact that he really, truly may not want to get back with you and this is something you may have to deal with!

There are a few topics that are best avoided on your first date, although you may feel passionately about it but its better not to speak about them when you are trying to impress the guy you are out with.

Do not talk about your relationship with your ex and why you guys broke up.  No one really wants to hear someone drone on about how upset they were and how he did this and said that.  What he did and what he didn’t do etc. Althouth you may feel better getting it off your chestand it may have given you the chance to ‘get it off your chest’ but your date will think you still have feelings for your ex and that you still want to be with him.

By all means discuss your job but try not to speak too much about how you have dedicated your entire life to it and stuff like that.

Swearing is an absolute no-no when you go out on a first date, most men hate women who swear their heart out at every single opportunity. Of course I suppose it does depend on the type of guy you are out with by in general most guys aren’t impresses by women who swear all the time.

Try not to interrupt him when he is speaking, if you are bursting to speak wait for him to finish and then start talking.  If you keep interrupting him then he will think you are not actually interested in what he has to say and that you like to listen to the sound of your own voice!

Going out on a date should be an enjoyable experience and it is the ideal opportunity to get to know more about the person and it is your chance to impress – but it can be very easy to blow it and your first date will determine whether you see him again or not.

Getting over a break up gets easier with time but you can make that time less painful by keeping a positive attitude and focussing on you. Getting over a break up can be an ideal time to concentrate on your goals and on improving yourself.

It may be tempting to contact the person who hurt you and ask why or to try and put the relationship back together. This is NOT a good idea. You need space to be objective and try and be clear about your feelings for your ex.  Remind yourself what went wrong within the relationship and try not to just remember the good times (something that is easily and often done).

Under no conditions should you enter into any sexual activity with your ex.

When you are trying to get over a break up try to keep your stress level to a minimum – this can be hard when your emotions are all over th place.

You will no doubt feel anger and unhappiness, and even feelings of guilt (even if you have nothing to actually feel guilty about). If you feel you need to have a good rant and vent some anger then don’t be afriad to do so. It can be productive int the healing process.

Your friends and family are there to help and support you so, use them. Tell them how you are feeling and listen to their advice. Sometimes another persons perspective can give you a fresh view on the matter. If nothing else you can be around them and feel supported and cared for.

Examine your life.

When getting over a break up, it is the ideal time to concern about your lacks and needs. Try not to care about what your ex thinks? Do you need to cut your hair, get new clothes, take a course or make some changes to your life? This is a ideal time to do these things. Spoil yourself a little. Pamper yourself but don’t over do it though, or your financial matters might end up adding to your worries!

Getting over a bad break up is not easy, but with strength, support and friends and family you can do it!

If the reason that you are in the situation where divorce or separation is looming is because you have been unfaithful there are things that you should and shouldn’t do to help. If there is something that you did that has caused this situation, then actions  speak louder than words. Of course you can tell them that you can and will change and you can try to talk them into believing you mean it.  Talk is cheap – YOU need to make the change and let your partner see you mean it. If you seriously want to know how to stop a divorce or break-up then you can start with accepting responsibility.

If it is a matter of  betrayal, then you need to work hard to make sure you never do anything that will give your spouse any reason to question your faithfulness again. If you want them to re-gain faith in you then you have to prove that you are worthy of their trust again.

It will take time and there is no hard or fast rule as to how long it will take and hopefully, in time you will gain their love and  respect again. Let’s be honest if you have broken trust, the truth is you don’t deserve to be trusted but, with a lot of hard work and patience perhaps in time trust can be re-gained.

It is the efforts to be faithful that will help towards proving that you are changing. Don’t deny that you have betrayed their trust and don’t try to justify it. Don’t get mad because they don’t trust you and don’t argue about it. If you messed up, own up, take responsibility and accept the consequences.

You may be in the situation where it is your partner who has been guilty of breaking your trust and has been guilty of infidelity. Put yourself in their shoes and imagine how you would want them to give you another chance. If you feel that you would deserve one then it very well may be that they deserve one as well. Put yourself in their shoes and treat them the way you would want to be treated. Try to understand why this happened.

There is always the hope that things can be resolved and that you can save your relationship but you also have to be prepared that there is also a very good chance that it might not be and that no matter how hard you try you cannot turn things around.  It could be that the hurt you or your partner is feeling could be too great and the relationship just cannot be fixed.

If you feel your relationship is important at all and worth saving then it is well worth trying to find professional help before deciding that breaking up or divorce is the only option. Try to find the best relationship advice you can.  Maybe both of you could arrange to meet with a marriage counsellor to try and talk through the issues.

It is quite common for depression to rear its ugly head during all this stress and heartbreak  – this is normal and is caused by all the intentions negative emotions the two of you will be feeling during this time. It isn’t easy to deal with and you may need some kind of therapy to help you cope and understand what is happening.

Relationships can be wonderful and bring feelings of love and contentment but they can also bring a great deal of stress when one of you brings infidelity and betrayal into your relationship.

If you want to know how to stop a divorce, seek as much help as possible. You don’t have to do it alone.

• Strong eye contact (lingering eye contact shows you are unafraid and interested)
• Coy grin (raising eyebrows, squinting eyes, widening eyes, winking, tilting head)
• Posturing (arching of the back, protruding chest and sucking in tummy)
• A passionate voice (charismatic or perhaps very intimate in tone)
• Wetting the lips or tongue movement (considered a nervous gesture, perhaps to calm sexual tension)
• Grooming (preening the hair or clothing may show interest of self-consciousness; look for hair tosses, excessive touching of the hair or putting fingers through it)
• Playing with shoes (common with relaxed women; watch as they dangle shoes by the tip of their toes, touch the back of their feet, or thrust feet in and out)
• Playing with stuff (meaning anything from a wine glass to a necklace or other nearby objects. Look for caressing movements that can indicate the desire to touch you)

In today’s world of instant and total communication, it seems almost illogical to stop talking to someone you shared such a constant and close connection with.  Sure you broke up, but deleting your ex from your list of Facebook or MySpace friends seems a little harsh, doesn’t it?  And do you take him off your email lists when you send out funny jokes, videos, and other stuff?  Trying to stay friends after a relationship ends is a dilemma.

But think about it for a moment.  Just how close do you want to stay to your ex boyfriend?  Do you really want to know what he’s up to… who he’s seeing… and when he begins dating again?  Will you be able to handle it when your ex-boyfriend starts seeing other girls, or will it make you jealous?

Before asking the question can you stay friends with your ex, ask a different question first: do you still love him?  Do you want your ex back?  Because if so, friendship is actually the last thing you want… even if he suggested it.

If your boyfriend asked to stay friends after the breakup, cold it mean that he’s not happy with the idea of losing you completely?  Even if he’s the one who dumped you, your ex might rather see a gradual detachment where the two of you stay in touch.  This allows him the freedom to date other people and keep you at arm’s length, but at the same time know exactly where you are and what you’re doing.  It’s comforting for him to know he can perhaps get you back if he wants, so he suggests staying friends.  For you though this might not be the healthiest of things emotionally.

Do you really want your ex back?  If you do – then work toward that goal.  Don’t substitute friendship for the relationship you really want, hoping and praying that you can use that friendship to enable you to get close to him again.  The reality is that you won’t get close – in fact, you’ll drift further and further apart and it will take you longer to move on.    Your ex will eventually just see you as a friend that he once dated.

Believe me, you do NOT want to watch your ex -boyfriend date other girls if you still have feelings for him.  You don’t want to hear about his exploits, issues, problems, and new conquests.  You cannot sit back and pretend to be his good friend when he comes to you with every little thing that happens in his life.  When his life doesn’t involve you in it… it becomes a lot harder to hear about.

You cannot stay friends with your ex  – not if you want him back.  If you distance yourself from him then you may be able to create a situation in which your ex begins to miss and need you again but, you also have to face and accept that your ex may never want you back and is just asking to stay friends with you because he feels it will be easier on you and his only intention is to move further away from you slowly and gently.

Do what is right for you – not them!!

2. What do you do if your boyfriend walks out?     You shut the door.

3. If they put a man on the moon – they should be able to put them all up there.

4. Never let your man’s mind wander – it’s too little to be out alone.

5. Go for younger men.  You might as well – they never mature anyway.

6. Men are all the same – they just have different faces, so that you can tell them apart.

7. Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity to make some woman miserable.

8. Women don’t make fools of men – most of them are the do-it-yourself types.

9. Best way to get a man to do something – suggest they are too old for it.

10. Love is blind – but marriage is a real eye-opener.

11. If you want a committed man – look in a mental hospital.

12. The children of Israel wandered around the desert for 40 years. Even in biblical times, men wouldn’t ask for directions.

13. If he asks what sort of books you’re interested in, tell him checkbooks.

14. Remember a sense of humour does not mean that you tell him jokes, it means that you laugh at his.

15. Sadly, all men are created equal