Should you be entirely honest right from the beginning?  In my opinion yes you should, after all if he runs at the first hurdle then it is best to know before the relationship goes further whether he is worth getting to know properly.  It might scare him off knowing you have kids but then could you consider having a relationship with someone who is not interested in your kids or doesn’t make the effort to get to know them.

Mind you if you have just left your husband are you ready to embark on a relationship anyway?  Is it a good idea?  If you have been separated a while and have kids then I don’t think kids are as big an issue as they would of been years ago.  It is relatively common these days for people to have children and be single and I think many people realise that as you get older it is harder to find someone who is not without children or a broken relationship behind them.

I truly believe that if any relationship you embark on is to work then you have to be honest from the off.  If you base a relationship on lies then it will never work, also, if you are not truthful then every time you meet for a date or are together you are going to be on tenderhooks and always watching what you say in case you say the wrong thing.  The fact that you lied for so long might actually put him off and make him walk away.  He might actually be a decent bloke who would not of minded if you had children or had just separated or cared for a sick relative or whatever it is you have hidden from him but he might not be able to live with the fact you lied.

Be honest – it truly is the best policy!

I suppose it’s a personal decision but most people think that sleeping with someone on the first date invariably means that the relationship won’t last the pace but you might get a few weeks of great sex out of it.

There again, I know of people who were so attracted to someone they had the most amazing sex the first night they met and are now married and very, very happy.

The risk you take is, if you are someone who is looking for a relationship then you have to be prepared that when you are on a night out someone who has had a few drinks and wants to have sex with you will say a lot of the right things and will walk away the next morning promising to call you and is never to be seen again!  If you can cope with that and are not bothered whether he doesn’t call or not then it’s ok but so many girls are left feeling worthless and not understanding why he didn’t call.  The answer to that is simple he just wanted sex, nothing more, nothing less.

Many would say the best way to find out whether someone wants more than just a ‘quickie’ is to not give in and see if they call.  Chances are if they call you then they want more than sex and perhaps things might have a future!